Sex, Rage And The Haters: What Gets You Out Of Bed In The Morning?


I am a graduate of the 67 Steps and if I had to sum up my overall takeaway from Tai Lopez, it would be this: do something.

Tai really helped me to push through paralysis, and start gaining momentum. Whether it is writing, gym training or playing guitar, everyday I return to this idea of just making a start.

It’s another way of saying “perfection is paralysis” but Tai emphasises that you can get a lot done by starting small.

“Make haste slowly” is his way of putting it. You can’t expect everyday to be finished in an orgasm of high achievement, but you can strive to execute small victories each day.

I love this idea, and it is why I continue to draw on Tai’s advice.

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Tai is very good when it comes to motivation. His ideas are grounded in an understanding of evolutionary psychology.

Basically, there is no point in beating ourselves up for being lazy or unmotivated, because we are wired for a kind of survival that doesn’t match up with our goals.

Our instinctual brains are in conflict with our personal ambitions for bettering ourselves.

The way round this, is to harness the instinctual brain and lead with reward. If we want to lose weight, pin up pictures of the kind of people we want to date.

If we want to make money, pin up pictures of all the holidays and dinners and expensive parties we can have if we are loaded.

There’s no point in being overly pious. We have to accept that our brains are wired to be selfish. So it is about tricking the brain into doing unselfish things for selfish reasons.

The bottom line with Tai is know yourself. Figure out what actually motivates you.

If I have to be honest, what motivates me is sex and anger!

I have lots of noble dreams, and my purpose here on earth is driven by passion and love for humanity.

But what gets me out of bed in the morning is hot girls and thinking about my haters.

These motivations don’t need to be in conflict with my highest goals. In fact, they are ideally suited to getting things done.

Tai helped me get rid of this idea that I need to present a Mother Teresa image to world. That is a recipe for failure.

We’re flawed, and what Tai teaches is that our “flaws” can become assets if we understand how our primitive evolutionary brain actually works.

Tai Lopez On Leading With Reward

Once we find out what works for us, Tai says we often keep trying other things, veering away from our strengths.

This is a mistake. Do what works, and forget everything else. Life is too short to be all things to all men.

Double down on your skills and talents. Again this requires knowing yourself.

What Tai means by “know thyself” also has something to do with loving yourself. It is not just looking at yourself in the mirror and recognising your own face.

It is being able to accept your limitations, and having the courage to cut out all the things that don’t reflect your natural talents.

I have used this in my guitar playing. Since using the 67 Steps, I’ve stopped trying to impress people with complex musicianship.

I know my talent is as a writer, and I can create music through words. So I’ve doubled down on rhythmic accompaniment, and I’ve started to make progress.

On top of that, I don’t feel so overwhelmed. I’m much more focused in my music practice and that energy creates a manageable momentum.

This works for everything in life, from relationships to money.

Tai Lopez On Doubling Down On What Works

Another big takeaway for me listening to Tai was starting to think like an investor. Stop expecting immediate results, but put your energies into things that will bring the most long-term results.

This is a good one in terms of upgrading peer groups, by the way.

I have decided to be around people who inspire me, support me and offer real-world help towards my goals.

We can’t afford not to think like this.

This investor mentality is really what is behind Tai’s book club.

Academy member Phil Smy did a really succinct summary of the 67 Steps, saying that Tai’s big lesson is to “always be learning”.

I think this is true. If we are stuck, or lost, or struggling to know our goals, we should simply default to reading and investing in our own minds.

Tai says that a good default goal should be what Aristotle called Eudaimonia.

Eudaimonia loosely translates as “happiness”, but it is a much more textured concept than our usual idea of happiness.

It is about fulfilling your potential, fully realising yourself at the highest frequency of your soul.

In order to do that, we need more than a full belly and a good night’s sleep. We need health, wealth, love and happiness.

Let me know what your big takeaway is from Tai. He has affected so many people, so it would be great to hear how you have been impacted by the Knowledge Society!

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Louise Carrier
8 months 9 hours ago

Fantastic piece James 🙂 Yes by far my biggest take away is ‘make haste slowly’ too. The amount of arse ache that it’s started to reduce for me is massive! I’m still having to work at it. Every time I find myself struggling I keep thinking of the Bruce Lee quote about the kicks Tai quoted in my head!


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